Everyone gets lonely, horny, and bored. The important thing is to make sure that your motivation for hooking up isn’t leading you to make bad choices.

If you’re lonely, think about what it is that you really want. It may not be sex but just human connection that you need. And, it is OK to be honest about that. If you are afraid that telling someone what you need will make them not want to be with you, you could get into a situation where someone could take advantage of you.

If you are looking to hook up because you’re bored, you should ask yourself why you’re bored. Do you really have “nothing to do,” or are you actually dissatisfied with something in your life? Will hooking up stop you from feeling bored after you’re done?