Have Fun, Stay Safe: In Love
As you know, there are both pros and cons to being single and being in a relationship (re-watch that video here). But, some of you who are currently single may want to be in a relationship. We asked guys on the street for advice on finding a relationship.
Regardless of the situation, a relationship should meet your emotional, sexual, and health needs. To review:
Emotional needs include
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- Feeling happy and content in your relationship
- Feeling like you’re an equal in the relationship
- Feeling respected and cared for
- Feeling like you can trust your partner
- Feeling like you can really talk to your partner
Sexual needs include
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- Feeling like you are satisfying your partner sexually
- Feeling like your partner is satisfying you sexually
- Feeling like you are having enough sex – neither too little nor too much for your needs
Health needs include
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- Staying HIV/STI free
- Feeling psychologically safe – no manipulation or verbal abuse
- Being physically safe – no violence or physical abuse
Also, it’s okay to be single! Here are some reasons why guys like to be single:
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- “I’m not ready, or I’m not sure what I want.”
- “The guys I’ve met just don’t have what I’m looking for.”
- “I’m focusing on me right now.”
- “I’ve got too much going on. My life’s too busy for a boyfriend!”
- “I have more freedom this way. I’m doing my own thing.”
- “I’m choosing to stay single and abstinent.”
- “I’ve been hurt by an ex, and I’m not ready to get back into romance.”
